From toothbrush to Wardrobe
You started your relationship 6months ago. She used to come over on weekends. One day you found out she left her toothbrush. You called her to tell her she forgot it and she said “Never mind, I’ve got another one at home.” The next weekend she came over and left her hair brush. You called her to tell her and she said “I’ve got another one.” She left her toothbrush first, now her hairbrush. You dint find anything wrong with it anyway. The next week, she decided to come over on Wednesday because she was free for the rest of the week. It was alright by you. You came back from work on Thursday and Friday, a woman in your shirt, a kiss and good food welcomed you. “Hmmn…. I could really get used to this”. You thought. She left on Sunday and you couldn’t stop calling her every 15minutes because you missed her. On Monday and Tuesday you managed to stew she froze in your freezer. On Wednesday, you had to call her.
You: “Honey”
Her: “Yes Love”
You: “Hmmn…. I kinda miss you. Can you come over today?
Her: “You know I can’t. I’ve got work tomorrow”
You: “You’ll go from here”
Her: “From there? It’s far.”
You: “Don’t worry. I’ll take care of your everyday fare”
Her: “Alright.”
She ended up staying with you for the rest of the week. You repeated the same thing for weeks. Now, this got you thinking. I love this girl. I miss her when she’s not here. She completes me.
The next time she came over, you said “Darling, why don’t you move in?”
You started your relationship 6months ago. You used to go visit him on weekends. One day, you decided to leave your toothbrush because you felt like it was your second home and to leave a mark. He called to tell you and you thought maybe he didn’t want it there because he had someone else so the next week, you left your hairbrush there just to be sure. He called you again to tell you and that got you bothered so you decided to go to his place unannounced on a Wednesday to be very sure. He didn’t complain on seeing you, in fact, he was happy to see you for the rest of the week. After you left, he couldn’t stop calling you and told you he wanted to see you again. You felt good about that. Then, the Baba of it all, he told you to move in with him and that was the confirmation you needed that he loved you and your relationship was heading somewhere.
And then you became a living-in couple.
A lot of unmarried Nigerians say that they are in committed romantic relationships by living together. But could “playing house” be the best decision?
I’ll let you think about this for a while.
Check here for the concluding part of PLAYING HOUSE.
I guess this is known as co-habitation right? It's pretty risky to the relationship.
ReplyDeleteI won't lie. I've done this before way back in school but honestly, i don't subscribe to it. There are better ways of expressing love and wanting to be with another other than moving in. Visits are good enough for me. If you guys claim to love each other so much, then get serious and get married. If she can spend a month with you and you ain't tired, then she's good enough to be a wifey. Lovely article Koyin. The subject matter has been tackled before but your perspective and writing is fresh. Keep it up. Stick to the front door.
ReplyDeletevery risky 4 both parties, but more riskier 4 d female counterpart should things go wrong along d line. Visits once in a while is enough, and the tempo could be increased when the commitment is becoming so sure. Unmarried couples life is not the best option.
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