PLAYING HOUSE (The act of being a little married) Part 2.

Welcome to the real world!

Do not think a man loves you all because he told you to move in with him. I am not saying men that do that don’t love their girlfriends, but I believe you should be wiser than making that your yardstick.

The same goes for a man that believes his girlfriend should leave with him just because she is fun and he thinks he should see her often.

Do you know that couples who live together have a very high chance of not getting married?

Living together might seem like fun in the beginning, but it turns sour at the end most of the time. Don’t waste your youth living like a married couple when you have better things to do with it.
Don’t live your youth waiting for your boyfriend to come back home, when you can use that time to focus on your own business. Don’t waste your youth trying to listen to that phone call your girlfriend receives at 1:00am.
Living like a couple only destroys the relationship.

Needless Arguments
Playing house only gives you problems. You begin to see more wrongs than rights.
You start to notice the time your partner goes out and comes in. When he/she comes home late, you complain
“Why dint you tell me you were coming home late?”
“You left me here all by myself”
“What were you doing at the office?”
“Did you even check the time?”
“I called you 12 times. Did you check your phone?”
“Where is your phone?”
Questions like this can really be nauseating, especially when your partner is fagged out from the day’s job. The fact is your partner is not married to you, so he/she cannot understand why you should ask those questions. Then it is called “nagging”. Why is it nagging? Because you are not married. When he/she was living alone nobody asked. So he/she should be pissed.
You start to complain about almost anything.
“Honey, you snore too much”
“Why did you leave the toilet seat down?”
“You shouldn’t have put my shirt over there”
“Who told you to rearrange my kitchen?”
These needless arguments can destroy a 12 year old relationship.

Less Romance
I like drama. I like it when I’m told of how much I’m loved. I like being told the stories of how we met over and over again. I like the drama that comes with romance. I like the cuddles, the butterflies. I like it when I’m told I’m wanted, being pampered just like every woman. But do you know that 80% of Nigerian couples don’t have that spark anymore after they’re married. The other 20% are those that believe age, work and children shouldn’t be a barrier to romance and try to make it work by renewing wedding vows, going on vacations, having pillow talks, etc.
When you start living like a couple, your relationship looses its spark. Little things don’t count anymore. Especially when the two of you are part of the 80%, which is most likely, because part of the 80%, play house.
Then it won’t really matter if he/she says I love you because it’s more like another statement, than a declaration. When you come home, you just want to eat, shower and sleep. The relationship becomes boring. On Saturdays, his friends come over and you are left in the kitchen or the room after catering for them. Before, Saturdays used to be about just the two of you. He’d never invite a friend when you came visiting. He liked spending time with you alone.

Even sex becomes boring because you’ve had it for countless times and you would even rather sleep and save your strength instead of having sex on your wedding night (That is if you are going to marry him/her).
Do you know that most couples that get married after living together for a long time end up not happy?

If you love your girlfriend and you want to see more of her, why don’t you marry her? The thought that you can always have her without marrying her will only slow you and your relationship down. Many people are scared of marriage and its responsibilities, but if you could live with this same girl for 7 years and be happy, then you can live with her all your life. You say you are scared of getting tired of seeing the same face every day, but haven’t you realized that it is this same face you’ve been seeing for 4 years? Marriage is a good thing.

Grow some balls for Christ’s sake. Ask her to marry you. She’ll be insane to say no.

Ladies, don’t ever assume your boyfriend is going to marry you, because you are living with him. Many ladies make the mistake of assuming they are in a serious relationship even when the man has said nothing about the future.
If you’ve been staying with your boyfriend for more than a year and he has not told you he hopes you two will get married someday, directly or indirectly, ask him. If he avoids the question or doesn’t give you a definite answer, Run! He is never going to marry you.